Many of us have experienced this phenomenon, where in spite of our successes, we feel like we are not worthy of someone’s attention or we feel inadequate to speak on something we know. In fact, 70% of people experience this during their career.
Lately, I have been feeling this a lot. I despise the fact that I feel it because I know I can provide value to people. I know I am capable of what I say I am capable of, but my head tells me I’m wrong, that I’m a fraud. Even though the results say otherwise, your mind says ‘you were lucky’.
This can be discouraging of course, but there are ways to overcome it and tackle the problem in your head.
Celebrate the Small Wins
How can this be helpful? Well, oftentimes when people are feeling the Imposter Syndrome, it is because they fell short of a huge goal, or they feel like they are never doing enough or getting big enough results. By celebrating the small wins, you are allowing yourself to achieve something. You are allowing yourself to feel those wins. This affects your subconscious mind in a way that helps you feel like you are accomplishing what you said you would.
Reach out to someone you trust
This one can help on multiple levels. Often times we are holding ourselves to unrealistic expectations, and by reaching out to others helps bring reality back into it. The other person could also be experiencing something similar and you can relate to each other. But often, they will help you see how much you have accomplished and let you know there’s nothing to worry about, if they care about you.
Help someone else
This is a fantastic opportunity to get outside yourself, help someone with a problem they are having, even if unrelated to what you are doing. If you are good at SEO, why not offer some advice to someone for free. Or go outside and find someone in need and help them out with no expectation in return. This has a way of soothing your soul and feeling good about being a human. When you help someone in need, it provides perspective.
Humans in general are amazing species, we get in our heads way too much though. No matter where you are in your journey, you are capable of amazing things, just get out of your head.
-Trent V. Bray